Yet another look at generosity

We recently completed the fundraiser for Nepal earthquake victims. Thank you all for all your support to us for this great event. It was a well attended program and very well organized. My wife has done a great job for a noble cause and has collected amazing amount of funds to be given to the Red Cross. I am so proud of having a partner who is passionate and keeps me on my toes in the quest for good deeds. While we were working our way with the fund raiser, we met with a person who is to go to Nepal and help rebuild homes. We hope that our small contribution makes an impact in someone’s life.

At the time when left out grey cells in the right hemisphere of the thing called brain were working on the event, the whitish grey cells in the left hemisphere were busy thinking of another story.

Let me retell it for you.

When the armies of Kauravas and Pandavas met each other face to face, ready to fight, there was a moment of stillness. A surprising quietness filled the atmosphere. The soldiers, captains, commanders and generals were sizing their counterpart in the other side. Suddenly a chariot came in between the two armies. The flag of the chariot sported a monkey, the charioteer was Sri Krishna and the owner was none other than Arjuna. Arjuna had requested Sri Krishna to steer him to the middle ground between the armies so that he can have a look at all the people who have come to fight this war on either sides. After giving a thorough look, he spoke to Sr Krishna – “Hey lord, what is the point of fighting this war? I am going to be fighting my own sons, nephews, brothers, uncles, teachers and in-laws? What is the point of winning this war, when I would have to set the throne on their corpses? Looking at all this, I do not wish to fight this war. I will give up my weapons and declare defeat. Let Kauravas take whatever they want!”. Sri Krishna laughed at hearing this. And asked “What a noble thought Parth! But let me ask you, where is this generosity coming from? Fear or Kindness? Are you letting go of your pride because you are afraid of loosing your loved ones? Or Are you letting go of your pride that you realize that it is meaningless?”

Bottom line of this conversation was – “Where does generosity comes from?”

The human mind is capable of imagination. Unfortunately, the imagination also gives rise to feeling of fear. The fear could be for anything, most prominent being failure and social pressure. Many times, we perform act not out f free will, but because of the social pressure. Fearing that non performance shall result in non compliance with the society.

Any charity done because of the fear is not generosity! It is neither charity. I am yet to find a suitable word to define the act. Please let me know if you have one.

Reviving generosity - the act of giving

I have had been unsure of what I wanted to write. Don't get me wrong - this has been a common thing with me - being unsure or being confused. If I think deeply, I believe this is the same situation for almost all of us. We are highly unsure at the moment of taking a decision or committing towards something. Committing is like entering a contract - you shall not back out of a contract! Isn't that management? Guess what? breaking a contract was the topmost crime that must be dealt with iron fist as taught to Yudhishthira by Bheeshma Pitamah on his death bed.

Recently, there was a earthquake in Nepal claiming many lives and livelihood of many others. Followed by the earthquake, the nature showed little pity through a snowfall and series of quakes that have left the people shaky. Being in the Himalayas, the worst affected places have been cut off from the rest of the world as the roads and the bridges have been affected too. This has jeopardized the rescue and relief efforts as well. Not just Nepal, but the adjoining areas have been through a great trauma since the nature shook its head. The people over there need help, need us, need belief that someone somewhere shall come to their rescue. 

The god or the superpower or the supernatural we all believe in, will come to the rescue of the fallen and shall help them. But how? I believe he sends his agents to work on his behalf and later get immortalized as his incarnations. This is just a belief, but a strong one. I believe this is an opportunity for all the rescue workers to step up and get immortalized in the visions of the people of Nepal and affected areas. In this attempt to provide the relief, all of us can play a part. Do whatever you can to help the rescue and relief missions - supplies, money, labor, honesty, getting down there and helping with the rebuilding - anything that you can.

Of course, money is an important media for charity, but not the only one. As I spoke in my earlier posts, charity is not simply an act of giving. Charity is an act of enabling someone to withstand their hardships and get back to normal routine. And that's the reason, why I emphasize on the thought behind the act than the act itself. The purity of thought, the vision behind the act defines the way in which the act is exercised and thus the outcome is defined. Thinking of an example to this idea is the birth of Dhritrashtra, Pandu and Vidura (If you want the explanation on that topic, contact me). 

We have always read and believed in the saying that "God helps those who help themselves" - a great thought. However, in my opinion, this is quite a selfish thought for it creates a way for one to turn away from the act of giving. The giver is always considered higher than the one who takes. Giving away something that you have in excess is simply an act of charity. But giving away something which is near and dear to you is only triggered through generosity. Karna was not remembered for giving away all his money but for giving away his armour and earrings which made him invincible. 

As per the Hindu belief, we are expected to give away provisions on Makar Sankranti, thinking that it shall provide for us in next life. Islam and even Christianity subscribes to the thought of giving or charity. Thereby upholding the virtues of charity. 

An act of giving with an expectation of returns is not charity but business. Generosity is not even in question in such a transaction. An act of giving under force is also not charity, but can be termed as a loot or taken by force. If you wish your act goes a long way, do it with a pure heart. It cleans yourself and creates a better world to live in. 

Generosity – Different look this time!

My previous posts – "Generosity or Charity?" and "Generosity – contd." have been focused on the power and effects of giving. The act of giving and sharing s so beautiful in countless ways.

However, we have to be careful on what we want to give away and got to be cautious of what is being asked of us. This is the theme of my today's post.

We know we need to possess the material before we can pledge it to someone else or in easier words – give it away. What we do not have, cannot be given. At the same time, it doesn't takes much to share the love or spiritual comfort from within yourself.

As the luck would have it, meeting the requirements most of the time, renders a thought of being omnipotent. And this is where we tend to make mistakes and overlook the power of the ask.

Let ponder on some of the very well-known stories –

• Vaman and Bali – When the Asura king Bali became powerful and expelled the gods from their heavenly abode – Swarga, Vishnu took the avatar of a dwarf Brahmin and begged enough land as covered in his three steps. Shukracharya – the teacher of the asuras recognized Vishnu in the form of the dwarf Brahmin. And so did Bali as well. However, true to his word, Bali granted the wish and lost everything to the gods – even when he was forewarned by his teacher and intellect as well.
  
• Kaikeyi and Dashratha – Kaikeyi – Dashratha's third queen had once saved his life in the war. At this Dashratha granted her three wishes. Kaikeyi requested a raincheck on the offer and Dashratha happily granted the same. The three wishes concluded into what we recall as Rama's exile and Dashratha's demise.
  
• Satayavati and Shantanu – Satyavati asked for her sons to be the kings after Shantanu in return for a marital knot. Shantanu happily granted the wish when assured from his son – Devavrata. This innocent looking wish became the killer and wiped out almost every dynasty from the face of India in the Mahabharata war.
  
• Sita and Ram – Sita requested Ram to catch the golden deer for herself. Though realizing that such a thing doesn't exists, Ram teaches Lakshmana not to underestimate the power of nature. Bowing to Sita's request, he leaves her behind to be abducted b Ravana.
  
• Ravana and Sita – When Ram went hunting the golden deer on her behest, Sita heard a cry in her name. She persuaded Lakshmana to go and check on her husband. Reluctantly, Laksmana gives up on his task to look after Sita, sets out to the jungle looking for Rama. While he does so, he draws a circle all around the house and requests Sita not to step out. Upon his departure, Ravana enters in disguise of a sage and requests Sita to step out of the Lakshmana-Rekha and give him the food. Though fully aware of the line, Sita crosses it and is abducted.
  
• Indra and Karna – Indra's son – Arjuna and Karna are equal warriors. Karna swears to take the side of Duryodhana and also promises Kunti that only one of them – Arjuna or himself would be killed. Indra realizing the power of Suryadev in Karna, ask him for his armour and ear-lockets. Though Karna had been warned of such guile by Suryadev, he listens to Indra and gives away his ultimate protection.
  

Apart from these stories, there are countless stories wherein Mahadev – Shiva Shankar gave away the wishes to anyone who worshipped him. Thereby earning the name – "Bhole".

Not realizing the power of the ask is either arrogance or ignorance. Either ways, it is harmful.

Be careful in what you wish for and what you are asked for.

 

Generosity – contd.

Expanding on the thought I seeded in the previous blog, generosity is also the display of the mental state of the human being. This is seen through a comparison of two interesting stories from the Mahabharata.

Both the stories start on similar grounds with two friends spending their childhood together playing, learning and growing up. One of the two friends grows up to be a king and the other a poor Brahmin. Bowing to their family and financial pressure, the poor Brahmin friend goes to the king friend asking for help. Now the stories take different turns. In the first story, the Brahmin is unable to ask for any help. Yet the king understands the need and provides everything without being asked. In the second story, the poor Brahmin approaches his friend and demands for provisions as they discussed in the childhood. The king, in return, derides the Brahmin and throws him out of the court. The first story is of Krishna – Sudama, while the other is of Drupada – Drona. It's the denial and the ridicule in the second story that leads to the darkness in the Mahabharata. Drona and Drupada become sworn enemies and the Pandavas and Kauravas play the role of actors fulfilling their desires.

Let us look at the symbols shown in these stories. Both the stories show the poverty in the society. However, in one story the king understands and takes proper steps to bridge the gap. While in the other the king actually denies to bridge the gap, thereby increasing the discomfort.

Imbalance is the state of nature and can never be changed. A generous person spreads comfort for all around them. He or She supports everone with what they need – material comfort or the emotional comfort. At the same time, we know we can share only what we have. Hence a generous heart also represents a peaceful mind. And peace all around. Lack of generosity (not charity) results in the discomfort all around us.

A beautiful Rahim's couplet describes this thought –
"रहिमन वे नर मर चुके, जे कहू मंगन जाही,
उनते पहेले वे मुए, जिन मुख निकसत नहीं."
"Says Rahim, he who has to beg is no longer a man. But those who refuse were never men to begin with."

Generosity or Charity?

Generosity is often described as charity. Are they same? I believe not!

While charity is an act of giving away something from your possession to the needy, generosity is the spirit that helps you think about charity. Charity is materialistic and is related to tangible resources only. While generosity on the other hand involved intangible resources like love. A generous heart soothes the needy more than the charity.

Charity is transactional in nature – you give what is asked for – nothing more, nothing less. While generosity goes beyond the boundaries of transactions and gives away without being asked or looking for anything in return.

Throughout or vast history, there are stories of generous kings and their subjects that have stood out as examples of greatness. Be it Karna, Bali, Virochana, Bhoj etc. However, in each of the story we always focus on the act of charity than the spirit of generosity. All these great men gave what they had and much more, when asked. At the same time, there is another story of Krishna and Sudama where Sudama couldn't express his need to his friend, but gets everything in return. We might have read this story in terms of friendship, but this story talks a great deal about generosity as well.

You can be charitable by donating money, but when you do not have any money can you be generous? Yes. It doesn't takes money to embrace someone with a warm heart. Love is not diminished by sharing or giving. Infact, it only grows this way.

On this topic, I would like to relate a couplet from Rahim –

Ve Raheem Nar Dhanya Hai, Par Upkaari Ang |

Baatanwaare Ko Lagai, Jyo Mehdi Ko Rang ||

"Those people are blessed who have charity inscribed on each and every cell of their body. Those who offer fragrance to others are always full of fragrance."